In life, you are the driver, not a passenger. You are ultimately in charge of the route you travel. The decisions you make or don't make impact your journey. As the driver, you have to deal with other traffic, road conditions and weather. You have to be aware of what is going on around you at all times. For safe travel, you make whatever adjustments are needed when needed.
All you have control over are your actions. Your life is your responsibility. Blaming other people or circumstances has the same impact as letting go of the steering wheel; you will run off the road and crash.
You may possibly get lost on your journey. If this happens, you need to ask directions or look at a map. Waiting for the situation to improve on its own is useless. Getting back on track requires deliberate action on your part.
When a road is closed or blocked, you have to take an unplanned detour. Doing so is necessary in order to reach your objective. When faced with a detour, you don't give up, get out of your car, and lie down on the side of the road. Instead, you follow the alternate route to your destination.
Suppose after arriving at your destination you decide it's not what you expected or not what you wanted. Remaining there would be foolish. It makes more sense to go someplace else. It doesn't matter how long or arduous a journey you took. If you are not happy where you have wound up, find a more desirable destination and go there.
It's nice when everything works out exactly as planned. But your trip can take longer than expected. Traffic, detours, getting lost, and the weather all add to your travel time. It's easy to become impatient. The problems you have to deal with are frustration inducing. Expending more effort than anticipated is not unusual.
Every successful trip requires patience as you deal with obstacles as they occur. The longer the trip, the more challenges you will face. Being able to handle whatever situations arise is essential in order to reach your destination.
Long trips require preparation. Your destination should be known. The route must be planned. Your car needs to be in good working condition. Your bags have to be packed and loaded into the car. Similarly in life, having the skills, knowledge, and ability necessary to reach your destination enhances your ability to reach it. Preparation greatly increases your capacity to succeed.
Developing good driving skills requires practice. Do you remember how awkward it felt to be behind the wheel of a car for the first time? The more you drive, the better you become. Practice is key to improving.
You want to practice driving under any conditions you may encounter. Urban driving requires a different skill set than country driving. In order to prepare for driving in snow you have to drive in snow. The same requirements hold true for driving in the rain or at night. Restricting your driving to ideal conditions leaves you unprepared to handle the unexpected.
Life is no different than driving a car. In both situations, you are responsible for the direction you are headed. The decisions you make determine your experience and impact your ability to reach your destination.
Decide where you want to go. Determine the best way to get there. Prepare for your journey. Get started. You are responsible for where you are now. If you are not happy with your current situation, it's up to you to change direction. Take the wheel and get going to wherever you would like to be.
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