It seems like a positive statement when someone announces they are going to give something a try. Isn't their intention to attain a specific goal admirable? Doesn't trying demonstrate a desire to succeed? In reality, trying is a back door to failure.
After trying and failing, the phrase we then hear is, "Well, at least I gave it my best try." A person taking this approach avoids feeling guilty as they might if no attempt was made. Then, after their failed bid, they give up on their objective as being unobtainable.
Success requires unwavering determination and commitment. For successful people, failure is not an option. The problem with trying is that it is less than a full and total commitment. Trying is the equivalent of, "let's see what happens."
Many things you attempt will not initially work out as planned. Those who give something a try give up at the first obstacle. For them, a setback is a roadblock. Failure is assured only when you give up. Success rarely occurs at the first attempt. Success requires adjusting as needed, knowledge, and experience.
Rather than giving something a try, commit to doing it. Be willing to do whatever is necessary to reach your objective. This requires time and dedication. When something doesn't work as expected, it's a learning experience, not failure.
Willpower is the force that propels you to your destination. You must turn setbacks into comebacks. When something doesn't work, make an adjustment and move forward. Learn from experience. Avoid whatever didn't work while repeating those things that did.
The road to success is filled with naysayers. Critics abound who are eager to inform you as to why you will not, cannot, or should not be successful. They will offer an endless barrage of reasons for failure.
Failure is assured when you take no for an answer. The reasons for allowing “no” to stop you are varied, but the result is always the same. Seeking acceptance is one motivation. The fear of being rejected compels you to take this bad advice.
Concern about ridicule is another justification for taking no as an answer. Why risk being laughed at if you should fail? The reasoning is that it’s easier to play it safe rather than going out on a limb.
Fear of criticism is a powerful driving force. We grow up seeking to please others. From a young age we learn the supposed benefits of avoiding denunciation.
Now that you know what pitfalls to avoid, here is the strategy utilized by successful people. Start with an understanding of what it is you really, really want. Your goal must be important to you. It has to be yours rather than imposed on you by someone else. You need to have a burning desire for its achievement.
Next, tell your mind that you will achieve your objective. You will do whatever it takes, for as long as it takes, in order to be successful. Visualize what it will feel like once you are where you want to be.
Obstacles, pitfalls, setbacks, disappointments, and problems are a normal part of the process. Don’t be deterred when they are encountered. Ignore the naysayers. They always find you. It doesn’t matter what other people say, think, or do. Stay on your path, always keeping your objective in mind.
An interesting side note is that as you become successful, your detractors will miraculously turn into supporters. Nothing succeeds like success.
Success requires willpower, not try power. There is nothing to be achieved by giving up. Failure is not an option. There is always a way to reach your destination.
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