Do you know anyone who isn't happy unless they are miserable? Then there are those who complain incessantly about anything and everything. To them, there are only problems along with an endless litany of things to worry about. It's amazing that some people seemingly refuse to enjoy life.
"I'm just being realistic," is one reason given for always looking at the negative. The justifications for misery are virtually limitless. Unhappy people can stand outside during a beautiful day worrying about when it will rain.
It's all about your perception. Do you see reasons for joy or excuses to be miserable? It is your choice whether you enjoy life or not.
You've probably heard repeatedly some of the oft used maxims. "Do you see the glass half full or half empty?" "Turn lemons into lemonade." "If it weren't for the rain there would be no rainbow." Each one of these sayings is designed to give you a positive perspective.
Your life is what you make of it. You can chose to enjoy it to its fullest by appreciating all of your blessings or you can pick it apart looking for problems. Happy people are adept at finding solutions for every problem while those who are constantly sad have an uncanny ability to find problems in every situation.
Worry blocks your full enjoyment of life. It's easy to formulate an endless list of things to worry about. You can worry about the past, present, and future. Worry is more insidious than just being a waste of time and energy. You actually attract the very things you worry about.
Worry begets worry. People who constantly worry create a self-fulfilling prophesy that is then used to further justify their strategy.
Those who enjoy life replace worry with action. They take action to influence those situations they have control over. They have learned to let go of those circumstances beyond their control.
Waiting is another enjoyment squandering strategy. Waiting for circumstances to change or a situation to improve is a passive strategy that makes you a passenger in life rather than the driver. You can do so much to steer your life in your desired direction. Life is so much more enjoyable when you are proactive.
You can't enjoy life when you blame other people or circumstances for your current situation. Doing so creates a victim mentality where you feel powerless to affect positive changes. Additionally, your energy is spent on complaining about problems instead of finding solutions.
You are in control of your life. Regardless of your past experiences or current circumstances, you are free to chose your next step. In order to maximize your enjoyment, make the best of your situation, identify where you want to go, formulate a plan to get there, and then take the necessary action required to move forward.
Although it is very easy to make endless excuses justifying failure or unhappiness, you won't improve the way you feel. A better approach is focusing on reasons to succeed and enjoy life. Be thankful for all of your blessings. Avoid fixating on what's wrong by focusing instead on all that is right.
Enjoyment is a state of mind. It's a shame to go through life in a constant state of misery. Time goes by so very fast. There is no reason to squander it being miserable. Honestly assess your current level of enjoyment. If it's not as high as you would like, start taking corrective action. Suffering need not be a way of life. You have the power and ability to boost your enjoyment. All it takes is the determination to do so.
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