Failure only occurs when you give up. Yet, many people consider giving up an option. Not everything you do will work as expected. However, if you get out of the game, the result is guaranteed failure.
Life is great but it is not perfect. There are challenges, obstacles, setbacks, pitfalls, and problems. The unexpected often occurs at the most inopportune times. Frustration is a normal emotion.
Feeling discouraged can make you feel like giving up. Although it may be a common reaction, don't give in to it. Failure is assured only when you give up. When feeling discouraged, step back and reassess. You might need a different approach, a revised strategy, more time, or an adjustment of your goals.
There is a difference between trying to accomplish a goal and being determined to do so. Trying is actually a back door to failure. It enables you to say, “Well, at least I gave it a try” in order to excuse your giving up and leaving the game.
When there is a goal you want to accomplish, you need an attitude of “I will do this.” This activates your determination. Your mindset becomes one of, “I’ll do what it takes to get this done,” instead of, “I’ll give it a try and see what happens.”
Without determination, you are likely to get out of the game after the first setback. Leaving the field is an attractive path of least resistance. Although watching from the sidelines gives the illusion of avoiding additional failures, it in fact guarantees failure because you are now out of the game.
Difficulty can be discouraging. It’s easy to use it as justification for sitting on the sidelines. Anything in life worth achieving requires effort. Success is never found on the easy road. Playing it safe is a barrier to achieving your dreams.
Obstacles will be encountered when you stay in the game. This is a good thing. Without obstacles to overcome there is no growth, no learning, no achievement, and little satisfaction. As you progress along your path, the obstacles you encounter will become more challenging. This is normal and to be expected. If you are not being challenged, you are on the wrong road.
Fear can drive you out of the game. Fear of failure, fear of adversity, fear of problems, fear of obstacles, and fear of the unknown are all debilitating. Fear has the potential to be all consuming to the point of attitudinal paralysis. Fear is a learned behavior which you can conquer.
People get out of the game because they worry about all of the potentially bad things that are possible if they stay in. Worry is like being in rocking chair; it’s a lot of activity that doesn’t get you anywhere. You do yourself a tremendous disservice by allowing worry to drive you to the sidelines.
Replace worry with action. Stay in the game by being proactive. Activity displaces worry. Busy people just don’t have time for it. Instead of fixating on all that could go wrong, focus on the joy you will experience when you achieve your goals.
Persistence keeps you in the game. Whenever you stumble or fall, get right back up and keep going. Tap into your drive and desire. If your goals don’t excite you, pick different goals. When you have a burning desire, you won’t be deterred. Leaving the game will not be an option.
You win by advancing along your path to success which happens only when you stay in the game. Keep your eye on your goal and keep progressing towards it.
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