In any situation, there’s a component of human nature that causes us to fixate on what is lacking. This inhibits us from appreciating all we do have. Focusing on what’s lacking has a negative impact on our attitude. It actually causes your mind to repel those very things you want.
For example, concentrating on how much money you don’t have, suppresses your efforts to correct the situation. Your frustration leads to inaction. Discouragement suppresses motivation. Although it’s ironic, focusing on what you lack creates an aura of desperation which repels what you are seeking.
Using this approach for anything you want produces the same outcome; concentrating on what's lacking repels what you are looking to obtain. So how do you acquire what you need and want? Switch to a mindset of abundance. Those who appreciate all they have, always have more than they need. Conversely, those who constantly feel they are lacking, never have enough.
Let's see how this approach can be applied to some areas of life typically thought of as lacking. We'll start with time, a common source of frustration. People are constantly complaining about not having enough of it. Although time is the one thing you can't get more of, you can make better use of it.
You can become more efficient in using your time. Instead of complaining about not having enough time, eliminate unnecessary tasks while prioritizing the important things you want to accomplish. Focus on tasks that get you closer to your goals rather than simply keeping busy.
Unlike time, there is no external limit to how motivated you can become. Lack of motivation is self-imposed. You are the only one suppressing your motivation. You can't blame other people or circumstances. It doesn't matter what bad experiences you may have had. If you want something bad enough, you will be motivated to attain it.
Many people feel they lack money. They constantly struggle to acquire enough. They work in jobs they don't like in order to have money needed to do things they enjoy. Much of their time is spent thinking about how much money they don't have.
There are wealthy people who think they don't have enough and those of modest means who believe they have more than they need. An attitude of abundance attracts more of what you want whereas a mindset of lack blocks and repels what you desire.
What about people who think they don't have enough friends? They look outside themselves for comfort and security. You are your own best friend. Your comfort and security is not linked to anyone else, it is rooted within you. Those who look to others for security never have enough friends. When you are comfortable with who you are, you don't need a lot of friends.
You may not be as happy as you would like. Rather than thinking about why you are unhappy, identify those aspects of your life you are happy about. You will be surprised at how many good things there are to be thankful for which have been overshadowed by your preoccupation of dissatisfaction. The area of happiness is a perfect example of how focusing on lack masks and inhibits abundance.
Now is a perfect time to start changing your mental orientation from lack to abundance. It's a very simple concept. When you are aware of and appreciative of all the abundance in your life, you attract more. A mindset of abundance is a cause, not an effect.
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