Savor every day as the second chance that it is
Every day you face numerous situations that range from invigorating to stressful. Your day can be 80 percent positive and 20 percent negative, and yet you may be devoting 80 percent of your energy to the negative.
When this happens you become drained. You are effectively ignoring most of the good in favor of concentrating on the smaller percentage that is negative. By focusing your energy on problems, you lose sight of all the good things you have to be thankful for.
This approach puts you in a constant state of struggle and frustration. Your appreciation of the important aspects in life is diminished or even lost. How many times have you heard someone remark that they didn’t really appreciate someone or something until it was gone?
People who have had a near death experience or who have survived an extreme situation against the odds develop a fresh perspective on what’s really important. They feel as if they have been given a second chance and are never again consumed by that which is insignificant in the overall scheme of things.
These survivors put all their energy into savoring every day as the second chance it is. They don’t get mired down with insignificant stressors. They understand that worry is a complete waste of time.
Do you recognize and have an appreciation of what’s important to you? If you don’t, you will drift from one negative distraction to another. Since you are not grounded by what’s important, your energy is constantly sapped by the smallest of problems.
Change your focus from what’s wrong to what is right. This shift keeps your mind on what’s really important. Those things you find important must be based on your values rather than someone else’s. Although other people can tell you what is important to them, they don’t necessarily know what’s important to you.
If you haven’t spent much time thinking about what is important, here are a few suggestions to get you going:
Time. Time goes by all too fast and it accelerates each year. Time is one of your most invaluable assets. Time squandered is lost forever with nothing to show for it. Unimportant stuff acts as quicksand for your time, draining more than you realize.
Be discriminating with your time. Spend it on those issues which are most important to you along with the people who mean the most.
Peace of mind. Concentrate on those things that give you peace of mind while avoiding sources of stress. Doing things you enjoy, working toward your goals, being with loved ones, helping others, and improving yourself, can all give you peace of mind.
If you are in a situation where there are more sources of stress than enjoyment, you can make changes. One common stressor is spending discretionary time with people who are difficult to get along with or who attempt to make you feel bad. These people seek to push your buttons in order to get an adverse reaction. Wherever possible, the best strategy is simply avoidance.
Following your own path. Your journey in life should be based on your desires. If you are off course, take action to realign your direction. When you are on track, you are doing what is most important; working to achieve your goals. Always having your goals in mind is a powerful motivator to keep your on track.
Consistently plan each day in order to give priority to what is most important to you. This creates a subconscious awareness that enables you to automatically let go of insignificant issues. With this strategy, you will be happier, more satisfied, and make significant progress toward achieving your dreams.
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