This is a continuation of the previous column’s strategies on how to hang in there when going through tough times. It’s important to remember that tough times don’t last but you will make it through them with the right approach.
Keep smiling. Anyone can smile when all is well. The real power of a smile is maintaining it during a downturn. When you smile you feel better. Furthermore, there are no negative side effects. So smile, especially when you don’t feel like it.
Maintain your sense of humor. Just like smiling, laughing improves your mood. When you find humor, it helps you endure and keep things in perspective. It’s good to laugh, especially when you feel weighed down.
Get back up when you stumble. Don’t become discouraged. Failure occurs only when you quit. Failure is simply the discovery of something that didn’t work as planned. Failure is a learning experience. Success is not possible without these seminars. The key is to just keep going.
You never know how close you are to success. Often, it’s nearer than you think. This makes it even more imperative to never give up. You may be exhausted, drained, and frustrated, but forward is the direction you must go. It doesn’t matter how small your steps are, as long as you keep taking them.
Problems are challenges you have to overcome on your path to success. There is always a solution to every problem. Successful people become adept at finding solutions to whatever problems they encounter.
Each day is a new beginning. Take things one day at a time and deal with one thing at a time. Your most important day is today. Don’t project a negative future. People get overwhelmed when they worry about what will happen in the coming days, weeks, or months. You need to handle whatever is in front of you right now.
Limit your exposure to negative influences. There is no shortage of naysayers. People will line up to tell you why you are in trouble and won’t succeed. Don’t listen to them. Don’t waste time trying to alter their minds. Change the topic and talk about something else.
Regardless of who you are and what you do, there will always be people who dislike you, and there’s nothing you can do about it. It is wasted effort attempting to win them over. They may try to make you feel bad. If you pay attention to them, it will be harder for you to hang on.
Everyone has problems. Circumstances may not seem fair. It is frustrating but you have to deal with what is. Avoid harboring feelings of bitterness, anger or resentment. These emotions hinder your progress while poisoning your mind and body. Focus on the action you need to take in order to get where you want to be.
You will encounter circumstances you have no control over. However, you do have control over your responses. You can’t control the weather but you can use an umbrella. Lamenting what you are facing isn’t effective use of your time. You are much better served by focusing on what your next step should be.
Make an accurate and honest assessment of where you are and what you have to do. Lying to yourself or denying reality only exacerbates your situation. Recognizing any mistakes you have made puts you in a better position to take corrective action.
Life is not easy but you can hang in there through challenging times. A positive attitude and outlook is essential. Although there may be many things outside of your influence, you do have total control over your thoughts and actions.
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