This column continues from the last column with suggestions for living a regret free life. Save these ideas along with those from the previous column. Refer to them often and incorporate them into your thoughts and actions.
Work to keep your thoughts positive. Your mind is a magnet that attracts what you think about. A positive attitude attracts the circumstances and people you need. When you have negative thoughts, displace them with positive ones.
Seek solutions instead of complaining. Everyone has to deal with problems. Just complaining about them is a waste of time and energy. Every problem has a solution. The challenge is finding it. Successful people are experts at solving problems. The more difficult the problem, the more rewarding the solution.
Analyze problems from every angle. Be bold, daring, or unconventional in your approach. Don’t be deterred by naysayers’ proclamations that solutions are impossible. Keep at it until a solution is found.
Always strive to grow and improve. Be willing to change and adapt as needed. Life is fluid. There’s always more to learn. Resisting change leads to frustration. The more knowledge you have, the better prepared you are to take advantage of opportunities that present themselves.
Broaden your perspective. Look at the big picture. Consider both immediate and long term issues. Don’t get stuck on things that don’t really matter. If something will be insignificant five years from now, don’t waste time on it today.
Recognize people for who they are. Don’t try to change them. Otherwise you will waste time and both of you will become frustrated. People don’t have to agree with you and you don’t have to agree with them.
Live life your way. It doesn’t matter what others say, think, or do. Picking a path that others approve of doesn’t lead to your goals. You are the only one responsible for your happiness. Don’t turn that responsibility over to someone else or blame others.
Have the highest ethics and morals. Never compromise these for any price. Keep your word and be honest and dependable. Say no to anything that isn’t right. Stand up for others.
Be polite and respectful to everyone you encounter. Treat each person as if they were important, because to them, they are. Smile. Say please and thank you.
Do important stuff today. Avoid putting things off. Procrastination is a major saboteur of success. Don’t make excuses. Things you put off tend to never get accomplished.
Don’t hold grudges. Feelings of anger, bitterness, or resentment only harm you. These negative emotions are a poison that causes physical and mental harm. Other people are who they are and they do what they do. The only thing you can control is your reaction.
Don’t allow your fears to get in the way of reaching your goals. Do what you’re afraid to do and go where you are afraid to go. Look at the worst case scenario. Most of the time it’s not that bad.
Be nice but don’t allow people to take advantage of you. You always have options and can chose to say no. Stand up for what you believe in. You never have to feel guilty for taking care of yourself and looking out for your needs.
Maintain a childlike sense of wonder and curiosity. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude to maintain an appreciation for everything you have to be thankful for. This helps you maintain a positive attitude and pulls you up when you are in a mental slump.
It’s a shame to have regrets in your life because of things you didn’t do. Regardless of what you have done in the past, today is a great day to start living a regret free life.
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