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Dare to Live without Limits

You can be someone’s answer

        We all look for answers for the problems and challenges we face. Everyone has off days where they feel down. Not enough people believe that they matter, or make a difference to others. It’s easy to feel insignificant in the grand scheme.

        But you do matter. Your actions matter. You can be someone else’s answer. A simple act of kindness to a complete stranger can change the direction of their day, or be even more significant. Consider the following examples:

        Amy was a young mother, with young children, going through a divorce. Her finances were very limited since she hadn’t yet found a job. Amy was worried about how she was going to cover her bills and provide for her children.

What can you do for others is the question

“We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give” — Winston Churchill

        Being concerned about your life is natural and healthy. Working toward your goals is essential for accomplishing those things which are important to you. Focusing on your needs and how to fulfill them is appropriate. You are ultimately responsible for ensuring your wellbeing.

        However, your needs are more readily met when your efforts include concern for what you can do for others. Giving of yourself leads to personal growth, as well as enhanced happiness. In fact, you can get everything in life you want by helping enough other people get what they want.

        Success stems from being of service to others. From a business perspective, you provide a product and/or service that people want and/or need. From a personal perspective, you do things for others that they don’t expect, with no expectation on your part for anything in return.

        In your job or business, strive to deliver more than your customers and bosses expect. This includes exceptional quality and value, along with outstanding customer service and support. Do more than others anticipate. Through doing more, you will receive more.

        Promotions and raises are given to those employees who are already performing at a level above their current positions. Individuals who wait for more pay before boosting their productivity are never rewarded. So, if you want more you must first produce more.

        However, when you do more for others, it should be done without any expectation of reward. It should also be done without having to be asked. Your actions are without condition. For example, if you help someone carry their groceries to their car, you do so just to be kind. You don’t expect, nor should you take any compensation.

        Simple gestures you do for others mean a lot. Holding the door, letting another car merge in front of you in traffic, allowing another shopper with only a couple of items to get in front of you on the checkout line, smiling, giving compliments, being friendly, saying please and thank you, and being there for someone who needs to talk, are all simple acts of kindness which make a difference.

        Helping others find solutions to their problems is another way you can be of service. Too many people get so caught up complaining that they fail to spend any energy looking for solutions. You can lead a person to the answers they need by asking guiding questions. Some effective questions you can ask are: “What do you really want?” “Where do you want to go from here?” “What do you feel would be a good solution?”

        Accepting people for who they are is something you can do for others. You won’t agree with everyone and you can’t change anyone. You can be courteous, polite, and respectful. There’s no need to be insulting.

        Don’t be judgmental or constantly get offended by other’s actions. Each person has their own individual experiences, outlook, and perceptions. You don’t have to associate with those you don’t like, nor do you have to be mean to them.

        Show appreciation to those who help you. Reciprocating is a great way to thank someone. When a person has been there for you when you need them, you can be there for them in their time of need.

        Your success is based on how much you do for others. What you send out does come back to you. This process works. If you’ve never experienced it, go ahead and try it. You’ll be amazed at the results.

NOW AVAILABLE: "Dare to Live Without Limits," the book. Visit www.BryanGolden.com or your bookstore. Bryan is a management consultant, motivational speaker, author, and adjunct professor. E-mail Bryan at bryan@columnist.com or write him c/o this paper. Ó 2018 Bryan Golden

       

Are you swimming against the current?

        What do other people think? How are issues portrayed in the media? What do your friends think? What opinions are trending on social media? There’s lots of social pressure to conform to group think. No one wants to be ostracized. However, the benefits of thinking for yourself are numerous and significant.

        It’s impossible to form your own views when you are constantly comparing your opinions to those of others. If you are continually adjusting your actions and opinions so as to avoid ridicule you won’t be able to follow your own path.

 

Universal Income

What do you think of presidential candidate Andrew Yang's proposal for a universal basic income of $1,000 per month for every adult?
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