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Improving your emotional intelligence has many benefits

        How well do you get along with others? How effective are you at dealing with your own emotions? The ability to deal with your emotions, as well as the emotions of others is known as emotional intelligence. Having a higher emotional intelligence boosts your effectiveness in accomplishing your goals.

        Pay attention to your emotions as well as being sensitive to how other people are feeling. Not being aware of how you are feeling, or what’s going on around you, makes it nearly impossible to function effectively in society. Being labeled as an insensitive boor is something you don’t need.

        There are valuable strategies you can use if you struggle with your own emotions, or those of others. Start with being in touch with how you are feeling and why. You want to be able to identify your exact emotional state and cause. If you are happy, what are you happy about? If you are sad, what is the cause?

        By understanding your emotions, along with why you are feeling that way, you are able to make behavioral adjustments to enhance positive feelings, while eliminating activities which generate negative responses. Those who are constantly upbeat are proactive about their emotions. They make good things happen rather than wondering why they are feeling bad.

        Know what really gets under your skin and sets you off. Understanding your emotional triggers enables you to be prepared to not overreact when you are faced with them. Visualize people engaging in the behavior which really annoys you. Then visualize yourself remaining calm and collected.

        Looking at situations from another person’s perspective helps deflect direct confrontation. It provides you with a different perspective, which gives insight into where the other person is coming from. This strategy helps find workable solutions instead of exacerbating conflict.

        Don’t make assumptions about how other people are feeling. Ask them directly, and then listen carefully to what they tell you. Believe what they say and give them the benefit of the doubt. This assists you in determining the best way of dealing with someone.

        Don’t sit in judgment of others. Everyone has their own unique experiences, feelings, and perspectives. It’s very difficult to fully understand what another individual is going through. So, always be kind and considerate, treating others with respect.

        Empathize with other people, rather than getting overly emotionally involved. You don’t want to get dragged down by their problems. If you do, your emotional well-being will be overwhelmed by whatever they are experiencing.

        Seek out opportunities to interact with people you disagree with. Practice having conversations without arguing. Explore why they feel the way they do. Ask questions instead of making statements. Your emotional intelligence will be enhanced as you practice having discussions with people holding opposing viewpoints.

        Be humble. Don’t brag. Take a sincere interest in other people. You can learn a lot from their experiences. Those with a low emotional intelligence tend to be so wrapped up in themselves that they are oblivious to the people around them.

        Always think before you act. Never act in anger. When you are upset, allow enough time to cool down before you say or do anything. Assess the impact of your behavior on others before making any final decisions. If you are not sure of how to respond, take more time to figure it out.

        Regularly practice strategies to boost your emotional intelligence. There’s always room for improvement. Developing a high level of emotional intelligence is an invaluable asset.

NOW AVAILABLE: "Dare to Live Without Limits," the book. Visit www.BryanGolden.com or your bookstore. Bryan is a management consultant, motivational speaker, author, and adjunct professor. E-mail Bryan at bryan@columnist.com or write him c/o this paper. Ó 2018 Bryan Golden

       

 

Universal Income

What do you think of presidential candidate Andrew Yang's proposal for a universal basic income of $1,000 per month for every adult?
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