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Are you swimming against the current?

        What do other people think? How are issues portrayed in the media? What do your friends think? What opinions are trending on social media? There’s lots of social pressure to conform to group think. No one wants to be ostracized. However, the benefits of thinking for yourself are numerous and significant.

        It’s impossible to form your own views when you are constantly comparing your opinions to those of others. If you are continually adjusting your actions and opinions so as to avoid ridicule you won’t be able to follow your own path.

        Base your views on accurate facts obtained directly from the source. If you use second or third hand reports or assessments, you are getting information filtered through someone else’s bias. Subsequently, any conclusions based on this information are flawed.

        Living life on your terms includes the willingness to swim against the flow of the opinions of others. You will never get what you want by adjusting to what other people think. Success is attained in the face of criticism, ridicule, or even derision.

        Getting what you want often entails swimming against the current. If you do what most other people do you will get what they’ve gotten. Their “achievements” are usually not aligned with your goals.

        However, you do want to study those successful individuals who have already attained the goals you are seeking. These people have had to swim against the current themselves. Their successes prove that your goals are attainable. They have used techniques that work. The experiences of successful people are a treasure trove of invaluable knowledge which you can readily utilize.

        Knowing what works best for you allows you to pick an optimal strategy. Your strategy is independent of the approaches used by the crowd. Throughout history, notable discoveries and breakthroughs were possible because the responsible individuals were willing to swim against the current of conventional wisdom.

        Their accomplishments were widely believed to be impossible. Yet, they persisted in the face of extensive cynicism and derision. Had they succumbed to the pressure from the crowd, their accomplishments would never have happened.

        Swimming against the current requires tuning out critics, skeptics, and naysayers. Ignore whatever they say, or do. These people can be those closest to you; spouses, parents, relatives, and friends, or they may be total strangers.

        Swimming against the current doesn’t have to be precedent setting to be significant. You might be the first person in your family who wants to go to college. However, your parents and close relatives feel you are better off getting a good job once you graduate high school. They do everything they can to discourage you from attending college

        Perhaps you want to start your own business but your spouse thinks you should keep the security of your current job. Any time you try to discuss your dream, you are met with endless reasons as to why starting a business is a stupid idea.

        Say NO to any peer pressure to do things you don’t want to do, or to not do things you want to do. Swimming against the current involves following your own path regardless of what others are saying, thinking, or doing.

        Live your life based on your own goals, desires, and aspirations. What you get out of life is based on your attitude and actions. Swimming against the current is how you live on your terms. How others are living has no bearing on you. Concentrate on where you want to be heading.

NOW AVAILABLE: "Dare to Live Without Limits," the book. Visit www.BryanGolden.com or your bookstore. Bryan is a management consultant, motivational speaker, author, and adjunct professor. E-mail Bryan at bryan@columnist.com or write him c/o this paper. Ó 2018 Bryan Golden

       

 

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