At times you may feel discouraged, worn out, frustrated, annoyed, or tired. Perhaps giving up appears to be an attractive option. Emotional swings are normal. It's easy to keep moving forward when things are going well. It's a completely different matter when nothing seems to be going right.
In order to move forward, you must take responsibility for your life. Blaming other people, circumstances, or situations gets you stuck in inaction. Making excuses justifies your position rather than motivating you to progress forward.
Problems, obstacles, and adversity are part of life. The bigger your goals, the more you will have to overcome. There is a solution for every problem, a way to surmount each obstacle, and a strategy to deal with any adversity. Determination to move forward is key to discovering your next step.
Success is achieved by making progress one step at a time. The rationale for this approach is simple; becoming mired in the past or frozen where you are now never works.
Study the past in order to determine what worked and what didn’t. Before you can move forward it’s imperative for you to understand where you are currently and what factors caused your present situation.
Only after you identify what brought you to your existing circumstances, are you in a position to formulate a plan for moving forward. Conversely, moving forward by addressing irrelevant issues is extremely frustrating because either nothing changes, or your situation worsens.
As you move forward, you must change your strategy compared to the actions that have brought you here. Doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result is a definition of insanity.
There is no benefit to punishing yourself for past mistakes or bad judgments. Worry is a useless waste of energy. Feeling sorry for yourself is pointless. Taking positive action in a new direction is essential. The only way anything changes is because of changes you make.
Thinking before you act is always a wise approach. Acting in haste diminishes your chances of being satisfied with the results. Start by listing all possible courses of action. Evaluate the pros and cons of each option. Regardless of how prudent you are, some things you attempt will not work out as planned. There is no way to prevent this. All you can do is make the best possible decision based on all of the facts at hand. Paralysis by over analysis keeps you frozen in place.
Effectively moving forward is dependent on your independent assessment and decision. Having to deal with criticism, pressure, and even ridicule is not uncommon. Follow your own path. Moving forward based on someone else’s requirements rarely results in your satisfaction.
When confronting an adverse situation, your response should be, “Where do I go from here? What is my next step?” This mindset propels you forward. It focuses your energy on positive action.
The only difference between people who continuously move forward and those who don’t is mindset. An attitude of, “I’ll find a way,” is substantially more effective than one of, “I don’t know what to do.”
Willpower enables you to constantly move forward. Willpower is different than giving something a try. Willpower means you will find a way, no matter what or how long it takes. Trying, on the other hand, opens the door for the possibility of failure. Willpower does not.
The next time you are faced with a challenge, determine what action is necessary in order to move forward. The size of the steps you take is not important, your direction is. Taking your first step is of paramount significance. It breaks through procrastination and fear. It is your first step that gets you moving forward.
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