Holidays often create thoughts of family and cherished memories of the past for many people and it’s a time when those who have been part of an adoption may think more about finding a birth mother or a child placed for adoption.
Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Toledo is offering adoption search and reunion services for adoptions completed through its organization.
An adoption search can be beneficial for all members of the adoption triad, which is the birth mother, adoptee and adoptive parents, according to Peg Gehring, coordinator of Catholic Charities Post Adoption and Reunion Services. For example, adoptees may find answers to lifelong questions about medical information and birth family history. Feelings of completeness and wholeness can become a reality for them, she says.
“Most adoptees want to thank their birth mother for giving them life and then allowing them to live a wonderful life through adoption,” Gehring said. “For birth mothers, to hear a genuine thank you from their adult child and to learn their child had a wonderful life brings a sense of healing and peace. It affirms for the birth mother that her decision of long ago was truly in the best interest of her child.”
The search and reunion can also be beneficial for adoptive parents. When adoptive parents give their blessing, encouragement and support for their child to begin a search journey, their fear of “losing their child” often diminishes, Gehring notes adding, “The parent/child relationship is often enriched with a greater sense of appreciation and respect.”
Catholic Charities serves 40,000 people of all backgrounds in the Diocese of Toledo annually by providing food, shelter, prescription and emergency rent assistance as well as adoption services, jail and prison ministries and guardianship services to the elderly.