Dare to Live Without Limits Week of 5/20/19

By: 
Bryan Golden

Who do you see when you look in the mirror?

Each person sees something different when they look in a mirror. Although the reflected image may be an accurate representation of their physical appearance, their interpretation varies significantly. You see who you perceive you are. It is your perception which determines your reality.
You are usually aware of how other people see you. But are you aware of how you see yourself? Your vision of yourself impacts your attitude, thoughts, and actions. You actually have conscious control over your interpretation of your reflected image.
It’s important to assess the current vision you have of yourself. Do you see possibilities or do you see limitations? Do you see a person who always makes excuses, or do you see someone who finds a way to get it done?
The image you see is determined by a number of factors. Your experiences and influences growing up are a major component. Being raised in a supportive, encouraging environment enables you to see a capable person who is filled with potential.
Conversely, a negative environment, where you were constantly criticized and maligned, leaves you seeing a struggling person who is constantly enmeshed in problems. Over time, your insecurities become deeply imbedded.
Your past experiences also shape the image you see in the mirror. Successful experiences create a positive image. Bad experiences leave you feeling frustrated that you have not been able to bring about your desired outcomes.
Who you see in the mirror determines your attitude, thoughts, and actions. You will not act in a manner contradictory to the person you see. If you see a failure, you won’t be successful. However, if you see a success, your behavior will enhance that success.
If you are unhappy with the person you see, you can change that image. You are not locked into the person you currently see in the mirror. That image represents who you believe you are right now. You can alter that image to correspond to the person you want to be.
Any steps you take in response to discontent must be positive. Negative, self-destructive actions, such as substance abuse or aberrant behavior, are guaranteed to make matters worse. Feeling sorry for yourself gets you nowhere. You are responsible for the decisions you make.
In order to make changes in your life, you must first change who you see in the mirror. This is possible by letting go of the past and putting an end to any excuses. Instead, focus on today and the future with a commitment to do whatever is necessary to reach you objectives.
The person you see is unique. You have your own aptitudes and abilities. Nothing is gained by comparing yourself to others. All that matters is who you need to become in order to get onto your desired path.
Determine what characteristics the person in the mirror should have. The essential component, which is the basis for all success, is a can-do mindset. With this in place, you are ready to make any necessary changes.
Aspects of yourself which may be improved include your attitude, outlook, manners, persistence, determination, knowledge, skills, and patience. Remember that you are not tied to who you have been. You are free to determine who you will be.
The mirror is your friend. It shows you who is responsible for your life. You are a work in progress, not frozen in time. Be honest about who you see in the mirror. The actions you take today are what matter.

NOW AVAILABLE: "Dare to Live Without Limits," the book. Visit www.BryanGolden.com or your bookstore. Bryan is a management consultant, motivational speaker, author, and adjunct professor. E-mail Bryan at bryan@columnist.com or write him c/o this paper.  2018 Bryan Golden

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